Heal the Family Now

Heal the Family Now

Kimile Pendleton talks about how men need to stop giving up their power .
Men, Stop Giving Up Your Power, It's not Sexy!

Men feel compelled to give up their power especially to their woman. They may think it is good for others but it is not and why it is the last thing you should ever do in your relationship.

First, let me define what I mean by "power." Your power is essentially your truth. It's your core. Your center. It's the way you define yourself.

Therefore, "giving up your power" is the act of bending or collapsing your truth in order to tend to someone else. It's when you stifle yourself. When you put your genuine thoughts and feelings on the back-burner to please another person.

Just to be clear, power is not about dominating someone else. It's not about being cold, rude, or mean (being a jerk isn't powerful - it's just being a jerk). And it's also not about playing games or withholding love (we can sense it from a mile away - don't manipulate us unless you really want to play with fire).

Power is about standing tall in your authentic self. It's about not being afraid to be you.

Unfortunately, guys, sometimes you collapse your power in the face of a woman - you bend and change to please us. And the worst part is that you actually think you're doing us a favor!

You're not. And here's why:

It may sound stereotypical, but we women like to feel like we're protected. It's a primal, evolutionary thing. So when a man stands in his truth, we feel safe. When a man is not afraid to be real, we feel safe. When a man doesn't collapse in our presence, we feel safe.

But when a man bends and changes because he's scared or intimidated by us? Not so safe.

No woman wants you to unnecessarily bend or change to please her! She may try to convince you that she does. She may push you toward doing so. But trust me on this one: she really doesn't want you to hand her your power. Ever.

Think about it for a second. Have you ever been in the position when a woman has given you all her power? What happens? The relationship loses it edge. It's not that hot. You probably get bored easily and move on to find someone else who's a little more difficult to manage (aka interesting).

Well, the same goes for us. We don't want your power. We want to see YOU in your power.

So why are you giving up your power in the first place? Well, if you really want to go there, we can start with a little psychoanalysis. You know, the whole overbearing mother thing? But that's all in the past. It's not mom's fault - she did the best she could.

Guys, take my advice: get really clear about who you are and show up in your relationship as your most authentic self. Say yes when you mean it. Say no when you mean it. Be loving when it feels right. Take your space when it feels right. Act with honesty and integrity in all that you do. And if you get to that place where you don't compromise your truth for anyone, I promise you, your woman, the world, and most importantly yourself, will respond to you like the man you're meant to be.

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